{"id":41,"date":"2005-06-24T13:30:18","date_gmt":"2005-06-24T13:30:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pat-matthews.com\/stories\/2005\/06\/24\/a-tip-for-new-dads\/"},"modified":"2005-06-24T13:30:18","modified_gmt":"2005-06-24T13:30:18","slug":"a-tip-for-new-dads","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pat-matthews.com\/stories\/2005\/06\/24\/a-tip-for-new-dads\/","title":{"rendered":"A tip for new dads"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Okay, this is another tip for all those dads out there. If you&#8217;re a mom, stop reading now. One of the biggest challenges that you&#8217;ll face as a new dad is competing with mom for the new child&#8217;s attention. I know, I know. It&#8217;s not a competition. We&#8217;re all in it together. Blah, blah, blah. <\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s the thing: mom will be the &quot;go-to&quot; person for the baby. She&#8217;s the one who spends the most time with the baby. She&#8217;s the one doing the nursing. She&#8217;s The Mom. You need to differentiate yourself. If you just do the same stuff she&#8217;s doing, you&#8217;ll be &quot;that parent who&#8217;s not quite as good as mom&quot; You have to come up with creative and unusual ways of forging strong bonds between you and your new kids. You can&#8217;t skate by &#8211; you have to get active. <\/p>\n<p>You have to do things that Mom doesn&#8217;t do. You have to be The Dad. <\/p>\n<p>Worried that you&#8217;re not up to the task?<\/p>\n<p>Relax. Here&#8217;s an easy way to cheat: <\/p>\n<p><strong>Step 1:<\/strong> Realize that babies don&#8217;t really understand your words. While it&#8217;s important that you talk to them, the words aren&#8217;t as important as the tone and rhythm.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Step 2:<\/strong> Whenever you&#8217;re playing, turn every word into a form of &quot;daddy&quot;. &quot;Daddy-daddy daddy daaaady da da. Daddy, daddy?&quot; Heck, you can do this whenever you&#8217;re talking to the child &#8211; but not when you&#8217;re angry or sad. Stick to the positive emotions. <\/p>\n<p><strong>Step 3:<\/strong> Whenever you come in to the room with the child, give the most enthusiastic over-the top greeting possible: &quot;DADDY! Daddy, daddy, daddy, daddy. DADDY!&quot; I recommend leaping about and making large hand gestures. If you can somersault, that would be best. Don&#8217;t scare the child, of course, but you want that little heart to race every time he or she sees you.<\/p>\n<p>I guarantee you that the first word the baby says will be &quot;Da&quot;, followed by &quot;Daddy&quot; as the second. Not only will you have differentiated yourself from The Mom, but you&#8217;ll have &quot;first word&quot; bragging rights and those last a lifetime. <\/p>\n<p>P.S. Yes, C&#8217;s first word was &quot;Da&quot; so was N&#8217;s. 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